{"id":143,"date":"2013-04-08T18:08:50","date_gmt":"2013-04-08T18:08:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/?page_id=143"},"modified":"2023-08-25T21:05:27","modified_gmt":"2023-08-25T21:05:27","slug":"parents","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/?page_id=143","title":{"rendered":"Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Fan Conduct<\/strong> \u2022 Showing Mustang Pride through positivity! Please read our philosophy on <a href=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2013.03.fanconduct.pdf\">Fan Conduct<\/a>\u00a0at our sporting events.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The Secret to Sports Parenting Success &#8211;\u00a0<\/strong>If you could help kids stay in sports with a simple social\u00a0media post, would you?\u00a0Today some 70% of U.S. children quit sports by age 13, often due to parental pressure. Once they\u2019re done, they miss out on all the important life lessons and health benefits that sports have to offer.\u00a0We get it \u2013 parents just want their kids to do well. Turns out the best way for that to happen is counterintuitive:\u00a0Studies show that kids enjoy sports more, play longer, and even perform better when their parents relax and let youth sports be their kids\u2019 thing.\u00a0That\u2019s why, thanks to a grant from the Daniels Fund, Positive\u00a0Coaching\u00a0Alliance-Colorado\u00a0is spreading word about a movement of parents who\u00a0are brave enough to back off so their\u00a0kids will stay in the game.\u00a0Your help in\u00a0making sure parents get the message through our fun new campaign can have a positive impact on the youth we serve.\u00a0#DareToChill<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thunderclap.it\/en\/projects\/47341-do-you-daretochill\">https:\/\/www.thunderclap.it\/en\/projects\/47341-do-you-daretochill<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Booster Clubs<\/strong> \u2022\u00a0Five teams on campus have their own booster clubs and more are being developed every year. Current Booster Clubs (Football, Men&#8217;s Basketball, Women&#8217;s Basketball, Baseball, and Women&#8217;s Volleyball) which team will be next? Get involved now!<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Parent Involvement<\/strong> \u2022 All parents should be involved and informed with their kids. We firmly believe that you parents should be fully knowledgable of our process. We want you to understand and we want to answer your questions before the tryouts begin. The best place to start learning about the process here is to read the\u00a0EGUSD Athletic Handbook <a href=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/2014.07EGUSDStudent-AthleteParentHndbk14-15.pdf\">2014.07EGUSDStudent-AthleteParentHndbk14-15<\/a><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Is your student eligible to be an NCAA student-athlete?<\/strong> \u2022 The <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nfhs.org\/\">NFHS<\/a>\u00a0and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.ncaa.org\/\">NCAA<\/a> have joined forces to present an online course detailing the process of advising student about the NCAA&#8217;s initial eligibility requirements. (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.nfhslearn.com\/\/pdf\/NCAA.pdf\">Learn more here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<p><b>Please help us reach your student-athletes with this information!<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Did you know that the NCAA\u2019s initial-eligibility academic standards are changing for student-athletes enrolling at an NCAA Division I university on or after August 1, 2016 (this year\u2019s high school sophomore class and younger)? A brief summary of the changes can be found <a href=\"http:\/\/tracking.ncaa.org\/t\/27327483\/863979221\/57920041\/0\/?2997ebdd=SW1wb3J0YW50K0NoYW5nZXMrdG8rTkNBQStJbml0aWFsJTJERWxpZ2liaWxpdHkrU3RhbmRhcmRz&amp;x=919df073\">here<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>To assist in getting this message out, we have developed the<b> <a href=\"http:\/\/tracking.ncaa.org\/t\/27327483\/863979221\/57492224\/0\/?2997ebdd=SW1wb3J0YW50K0NoYW5nZXMrdG8rTkNBQStJbml0aWFsJTJERWxpZ2liaWxpdHkrU3RhbmRhcmRz&amp;x=810978e9\">Initial-Eligibility Resource Index<\/a><\/b> , a new electronic tool that contains links to the NCAA Eligibility Center\u2019s resources and presentations available free of charge. Please share these materials broadly with students, parents, coaches, etc.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>Key Reminders<\/b><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Additional high school-specific resources are available on the <a href=\"http:\/\/tracking.ncaa.org\/t\/27327483\/863979221\/55537731\/0\/?2997ebdd=SW1wb3J0YW50K0NoYW5nZXMrdG8rTkNBQStJbml0aWFsJTJERWxpZ2liaWxpdHkrU3RhbmRhcmRz&amp;x=71f1857a\">High School Portal Resources<\/a> page. The NCAA Eligibility Center receives thousands of calls each year regarding hardcopy transcript receipt due to the two- to three-week processing time needed to mail, log, scan, and post transcripts to student accounts. You are strongly encouraged to submit transcripts through one of the approved e-transcript providers (<b>Docufide\/Parchment, Scrip Safe, ConnectEDU, National Transcript Center\/Pearson Edustructure, USMO ET, and XAP<\/b>) as these transcripts usually appear in student accounts within 48 hours.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Grade Reporting Schedule<\/strong> \u2022 We are very serious about the &#8220;scholar&#8221; in Scholar Athlete.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Grade-Reporting-Schedule.xls\">Grade Reporting Schedule<\/a><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Feed Your Active Body<\/strong> \u2022 Learn more about the proper nutrition for athletes. (<a href=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2011.08.nutrition.pdf\">USDA Pyramid<\/a>)<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>The Role of the Parent in Sports<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nfhs.org\">(NFHS)<\/a> \u2022 As a parent of a student who participates in athletics, you make a huge difference in the quality of your child\u2019s sport experience, as well as what is being taught and learned by our youth. The <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nfhs.org\/\">NFHS<\/a> has provided information and resources to help educate you on the importance of proper behavior by parents in school sports. (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.nfhslearn.com\/electiveDetail.aspx?courseID=18000\">online course available<\/a>)<\/p>\n<p>PCA Parent 2-minute drill article\u00a0<a style=\"color: #1b8be0;\" title=\"PCA 2 Minute Drill\" href=\"http:\/\/view.positivecoach.net\/?j=fe9715727d65017f70&amp;m=fe9815707063047e72&amp;ls=fe621c707767077c7312&amp;l=ff2d12727162&amp;s=fe5c15717d6105757113&amp;jb=ffce15&amp;ju=fe6717707565057a761d&amp;r=0\">Right After a Competition<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in; margin-bottom: .0001pt;\"><span style=\"color: #4c3f36;\">A Resource from Positive Coaching Alliance&#8217;s\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/r20.rs6.net\/tn.jsp?f=001RnUeB7Id20UAKltdbDnIxEPsTDoLBFgbcHg_xPa2kgfopNPPT0GKSJW9cnj7L3Gv0K39gq_0bq7X_iByO70Llq8mkkSJmzpuEZti_ecj3VbXuDxy9L0XZp9eYQq7Tt54VyEiMnCfrJ12aSjwSwYMhWshv3AeDu3FcRJ7sUuuXQmpULe361RsNA==&amp;c=D0GDXHC_OMKwBwPvULbQoeBuMGLttuy0OxMDzDe_ibBjcKIn_JOF0A==&amp;ch=4bM44z-lv_gA4BvHLUQKmzwuCPy0fh_RVgRmOy4oSphdmNkVKzr6eA==\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" shape=\"rect\"><b>PCADevZone.org<\/b><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>EGUSD Voluntary Athletic Contribution<\/strong> \u2022 The Elk Grove Unified School District (<a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.egusd.net\/athletics\/forms\/\">EGUSD website<\/a>) has long been known for its excellent athletic programs. The district is proud of this reputation and recognizes that athletics support students\u2019 physical, social, and academic development. Unfortunately, due to the financial crisis in the State of California and the reduction of funding for public education, the district has been forced to cut over $60 million from its 2010-11 budget (see\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.egusd.net\/athletics\/forms\/\">EGUSD website<\/a>\u00a0for more info) * <a href=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/2014.09MTHSVACphilosophy.pdf\">2014.09MTHSVACphilosophy<\/a>*<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span style=\"color: #ffcc00;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.positivecoach.org\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft  wp-image-2537\" style=\"border: 0px initial initial;\" src=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/pca.jpg\" alt=\"pca\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>The Coach-Parent Partnership<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Three steps to developing a great Coach-Parent Partnership:<br \/>\n\u2022 Recognize the commitment the coach has made. The coach who puts in long hours for little or no pay deserves your support. (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.positivecoach.org\/common\/cms\/documents\/Parent%20Tools%20-%20Public\/PCA_Coach_Parent_partnership.pdf\">read the entire article here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span style=\"color: #ffcc00;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.positivecoach.org\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft  wp-image-2537\" style=\"border: 0px initial initial;\" src=\"http:\/\/mthsmustangs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/pca.jpg\" alt=\"pca\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>Playing Multiple Sports<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Competing in a variety of sports can help you develop different senses of leadership. For example, in a sport where you are less skilled than your teammates, you may become more of a vocal, emotional leader, while in your stronger sport, you might be able to lead more by physical example.<\/p>\n<p>In sports and beyond, both forms of leadership are valuable, and you will find yourself in situations that call for one or the other&#8230;and sometimes the need to smoothly transition back and forth in the same day.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Observe &#8220;Cooling Off&#8221; Period<\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\/\">PCA<\/a>\u00a0\u2022 Wait to talk to the coach about something you are upset about for at least 24 hours after a game. Emotions, both yours and the coach\u2019s, are often so high after a contest that it\u2019s much more productive if you wait until a day goes by before contacting the coach about a problem. This will also give you time to think about what your goals are and what you want to say.\u00a0<em>Note: There are exceptions to the 24-hour cooling off period. If the coach\u2019s behavior\u00a0puts your child\u2019s safety at risk, appears unethical, or exemplifies poor sportsmanship, speak to him or her as soon as you can safely do so.<\/em><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Know Your Role<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 Let\u2019s say your child has just had an opportunity to make the winning play in a game and blew it. If you competed in this sport growing up (and perhaps even if you didn\u2019t), you may have suggestions for how your child could have made the play. Suggestions from parents are often not well received by their children.\u00a0Athletes get so much coaching already \u2013 from coaches, from teammates, and from the game itself. When parents add to this flood of feedback, it often overwhelms the child, like the proverbial straw that breaks the camel\u2019s back. Rather than obsessing about the skills and strategy of the game, engage your children around the life lessons from their experience. This is your role as a Second-Goal Parent.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Open Ended Questions<\/strong> \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 When talking with your children about a recent game, use open-ended questions to get them to talk while you stay in listening mode.<br \/>\n~\u201cWhat was the best part of the game today?\u201d<br \/>\n~\u201cWhat was the hardest part of the game for you?\u201d<br \/>\n~\u201cWhat lessons can be learned from a tough loss?\u201d Without downplaying your child\u2019s disappointment, lend perspective and fill their Emotional Tanks by pointing out things that did go well in the game.<br \/>\n~\u201cYou were really in the zone for most of the game today. Your hard work at practice is really paying off.\u201d<br \/>\n~\u201cBoth teams competed so hard. I hope you can feel good about your effort.\u201d Then come back to the Big Picture.<br \/>\n~\u201cI can imagine it is disappointing to have lost today\u2019s game, but I know you\u2019re the kind of person who doesn\u2019t let a setback keep you down. That kind of resilience will help you rebound from any obstacle life throws your way.\u201d<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Targeted Cheering<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\/\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 During one-sided games, it is a good idea to take even more of your focus off the scoreboard, regardless of what side of the score your team is on. Parents often just cheer reflexively whenever their children&#8217;s teams score. But Second-Goal Parents go beyond reflex to cheer for the things they want to see happen again \u2013 things that reinforce their ultimate goals surrounding their child&#8217;s sports experience. If you want your children to value giving their best efforts, then cheer for your children for their efforts regardless of the outcome or scoreboard. Advanced Second-Goal Parents stretch outside the box and cheer for great plays and efforts made by players on the opposing team as well.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Model Preparation for Practice<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\/\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 Sports provide children with numerous opportunities to learn life skills. The power of preparation is one such skill. Preparation routines are one of the best ways athletes can prepare themselves for \u201cpeak practice&#8221;. How can parents help develop this skill? The first way is to model the behavior: develop and use routines to help you prepare for work, meetings, errands and sports practice! Think of everything you will need to be totally prepared and present for the activities in your life\u2014consider meals, clothing, equipment, notes, maps etc. Remember, we get what we prepare for. Next, work with your child to develop his own pre-practice preparation routine. Help himcreate a checklist that includes everything he will need to have his best practice.This list can include everything from thinking through when he needs toleave home\/school to get to practice on time (or even a little early!), to making sure he&#8217;s gotall needed equipment and water ready to go. Learning the skill of preparationthrough sports will pay huge dividends down the road for your child.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Pressure is a Privilege &#8211;<\/p>\n<table width=\"540\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>Between playoffs, all-star tryouts and finals week in school &#8211; all coming soon, if they are not already underway &#8211; coaches, parents and student-athletes may be feeling a little extra pressure. No worries. Our top coaches, sports psychologists and other experts have your back.\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/cl.s4.exct.net\/?qs=e2b901e726fe80e1aa8de2a3ab3b2c36f02824863a9d982d9432201de60c3106835ba437a5ada82b\">LEARN HOW TO COPE<\/a><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>You&#8217;re the kind of person who&#8230;\u00a0<\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\/\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 As parents we have great power to shape the way our children think about themselves. Through the thoughtful use of you&#8217;re-the-kind-of-person-who statements, we can help them begin to think of themselves as capable people with positive character traits. This phrase can also work beyond the athletic field. If you want to raise a child who loves reading, you can look for an opportunity to catch her reading something and later say, &#8220;I noticed you reading that book on falcons. It&#8217;s great that you&#8217;re the kind of person who likes to read for pleasure.&#8221; After an athletic contest in which your child made a great effort, you can say, &#8220;That long run you made after the ball near the end of the game was a great effort. I&#8217;m proud that you&#8217;re the kind of player who doesn&#8217;t give up easily.&#8221;<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>The Magic Ratio&#8230;\u00a0<\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\/\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 Research shows that about five Emotional Tank-fillers per criticism is optimal for motivation. Keep track of the tank-fillers and criticisms you deliver to your child over the course of a day with pluses and minuses on a piece of paper. You will be amazed at how many criticisms you hand out. Once you get to 5:1 (truthful and specific praises), you\u2019ll see why it\u2019s called the Magic Ratio. Your child\u2019s emotional tank will be so full they\u2019ll do things you would have thought were impossible! Remember, the kinds of things that fill tanks are praise (truthful and specific), reinforcing positives, listening and nonverbal actions (nodding, clapping, smiling). Criticisms, corrections, ignoring and nonverbal actions (frowns) are things that tend to drain tanks.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>&#8220;When I Become Coach&#8221;<\/strong> (<em>The Double Goal Coach by Jim Thompson<\/em>)\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\/\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 What if you know more about the game than your child\u2019s coach? Even some of the best coaches \u2013 professional and college coaches who have kids in youth sports \u2013 resist the temptation to give advice to their child\u2019s coach. If these elite coaches who know so much about their game refrain from giving advice to their child\u2019s coach, so can we! If you do have some really wonderful tactical advice for your child\u2019s coach, write it down and put it in a folder labeled \u201cWhen I Become the Coach.\u201d<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>College Recruitment<\/strong> \u2022 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mthsmustangs.com\/forms\/2012.07.recruitreal.pdf\">click here to read the Top 10 Realities of College Recruiting<\/a><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Rules for Parents of Athletes<\/strong> \u2022 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mthsmustangs.com\/forms\/2012.07.parentathleterules.pdf\">click here to read a gathered list<\/a> of rules for parents of student-athletes.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Self Control Routine<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 No matter how much you intend to Honor the Game, there will be moments as a coach, parent or player when you feel yourself losing your temper. Having a specific routine that you have rehearsed in advance can help you keep your cool. (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mthsmustangs.com\/forms\/2012.07.athlete_selfcontrol.pdf\">Athletes read more<\/a>)(<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mthsmustangs.com\/forms\/2012.07.parent_selfcontrol.pdf\">Parents read more<\/a>)<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>Unconditional Support<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/positivecoach.org\">PCA<\/a> \u2022 Perhaps the biggest fear athletes have is making a mistake in a crucial situation that hurts their team. Standing by your children in this embarrassing situation ist eh most effective way of demonstrating that your love and support for them in unconditional. (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mthsmustangs.com\/forms\/2012.07.parent_support.pdf\">read more<\/a>)<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fan Conduct \u2022 Showing Mustang Pride through positivity! Please read our philosophy on Fan Conduct\u00a0at our sporting events. 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